This article will look at several reasons why a person gets addicted to gambling. To begin with, gambling is an exhilarating experience. During the actual activity, adrenaline kicks in and this is a good feeling to have. Some people want to experience these “feel good” elements in the brain over and over again, hence the start of the addiction. The causes vary from case to case even if it is good to know the exact reason, the resolution will always be more important for this kind of disorder.
Now that we have seen that every person has a negative believe; we were all taught that we are wrong. Some of us have got this feeling deeper and stronger than others. Some people have a stronger negative feeling about himself but every human being has got it. We have also seen that nobody is born with this feeling. We were all born as a spontaneous baby. But because of our upbringing, raising, we were taught what is right and what is wrong. This created our identity. Now back to you;
You were born as a baby, pure and spontaneous. Then your parents, or the people who raised you, rejected the behavior that in their eyes was wrong. Then you felt the pain of being rejected. And your conclusion was; I’m bad, I may not be spontaneous. And as a reaction you stopped being spontaneous. This doesn’t happen conscious, it’s a psychological mechanism. Wanting to be spontaneous is being held back by the fear of rejection.
And because you are blocking your spontaneousness yourself you are in fact rejecting yourself. So the negative belief in yourself is in fact a protection mechanism against the pain of being rejected. So in many ways and many situations you find yourself incompetent, not good enough, weak, or whatever you may call it. In fact, you reject yourself. Every person has got the emphasis in a different way; Some would say I’m ugly, Others I’m weak, or I’m stupid, I’m not worth it. Now what has a negative belief and self rejection to do with gambling addiction?
Believe me, everybody has got it. Let me explain the connection with gambling addiction. Maybe you have heard before that an addiction is a vicious circle. Well this is the vicious circle of gambling addiction; When we speak about a real gambling addiction the person has got a strong dissatisfaction with his life and with himself. There is a strong need to escape from this dissatisfying life; an urge to excitement and sensation! During gambling a rush of excitement is created. The excitement of winning! Only if you are winning….
And there is always the internal conflict; Fear of losing (to go with the feeling of being stupid, weak, etc.) opposite a strong desire to win (to go with the feeling of success, being good, being special, being a winner, etc.). Can you image that the higher the stake, the higher and more intense the stress is? How stupid do you feel when you have lost! And then you want to get rid of that stupid feeling…. This is why you start that next stake. Just to get back that feeling of success.
What happens when you win? For a short time you feel the excitement of winning! But this fades away quickly because you know deep inside that it was only coincidence! And this is why you start a new stake. Just to get that feeling of success again. Do you see the vicious circle of the addiction? Do you see the Deeper Cause of Gambling Addiction?
Some people consider gambling as a filler of an empty void in their life. For example, if someone close to you dies, you turn to gambling to fill the emptiness and longing that you have for that person. If you feel like something is missing in your life and you can’t quite pinpoint what it is sometimes you turn to instant fun, like gambling, and this can be the beginning of an addiction.
If the people around you are gamblers, then there is a very big possibility that you will end up like them. The environment you are in can be a very critical factor in contributing to a gambling addiction. Since these people will eat, talk, and sleep gambling, you are most likely to follow their lifestyle. It is very easy to like the winning part and this can be your motivation. The kick you get out of getting “easy money” adds icing to the cake.